The world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us. This may make us feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. We all know that blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, but we may not understand how to take responsibility for things that we don’t truly feel responsible for.
We may blame our parents for our low self-esteem, and we may blame our current partner for exacerbating it with their unconscious behavior. Objectively, this seems to make sense. After all, it is not our fault if our parents were irresponsible or unkind, and we are not to blame for our partner’s bad behavior.
Perhaps the problem lies with the activity of blaming. Whether we blame others or blame ourselves, there is something aggressive and unkind about it. It sets up a situation in which it becomes difficult to move forward under the burdensome feelings of shame and guilt that arise. It also puts the resolution of our pain in the hands of someone other than us.
In short, we love ourselves as we want to be loved and respect ourselves as we want to be respected, and create the life we know we deserve. We leave the resolution of the wrongs committed against us in the hands of the Universe, releasing ourselves to live a life free of blame.
Sometimes, we just have to let go of the blame, release it and move forward. I take responsibility for my thoughts, words, and actions.
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