Sex & Spirituality: Thoughts

I'm not going to pontificate about sex, love, or marriage! It's not my place, nor is it my interest. Many of us have been in love, and some of us have been in lust ... do we really know the difference? There is a difference. I know the difference. I'm not going to explain it here, though.


Sex is beautiful and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it between two consenting adults. Many philosophies claim that sex is only tolerated and only belongs within the confines of marriage, and yet who invented marriage? It wasn't God, or Allah, or any other Supreme Being ... some philosophies even want to dictate HOW to have sex with your sexual partner. The Mormons, for example, believe that sex is allowed for one reason only: to procreate. Not for fun, not for pleasure ... read more about Mormon beliefs about sex here: http://www.i4m.com/think/sexuality/mormon_sex_war.htm


It was man who decided to create the term 'marriage' as it stands today. In order to be married, we have to apply for and pay for a marriage license ... Why is the law involved in the marriage of one human being to another ... (we can reserve other questions about lawful marriage for another post!)


If one person states his or her love for another and they decide to embark on a committed and consensual journey together, does that not make them 'married' in the eyes of a Supreme Being? In their own eyes? 


And is it not their right to share their love for one another, including with expressions of a sexual nature, together?


Think about it ...
Namasté, my friends ...

The Unseen

Just because we can't see something, it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Many of us use the excuse that we can not see God, spirit guides, or other unseen beings, therefore they must not exist. This is how humans commonly deny the existence of Something Greater working and being in our lives.

Anyone who has encountered these unseen beings can attest to the fact that they do indeed exist, just as our breath exists. Our breath cannot be seen, but it's there, keeping us alive with every inspiration and expiration. If we could not breathe, the CO2 and O2 exchange would not go on within our lungs, and we would fail to go on living. The wind exists as well, and we have never "seen" the wind. 


We only know it's there because we can feel it on our skin, in our hair, and we see it moving through the trees. All around us and within us there are things we cannot see, and yet we know they are just as real as you or I, or Mother Earth. Why is it humans have such a difficult time believing the existence of Something Greater than ourselves?

Some people are more gifted at accessing that which we cannot see, but given an open mind and willing heart, anyone can tune into the invisible realm and begin to find their way.

Human beings have always done this, and it's probably only recently, within the last 100 years or so, that we have fallen into distrusting the existence of what we cannot see.

If you are one who has lost touch with the unseen world, all that need be done is to resolve to open your heart and mind to the existence of the unseen, and it will make itself known to you. Closing your eyes in meditation and/or prayer, or engaging the unseen through the written word, are two ways to welcome the unseen into your life. Whatever one chooses to do, cultivating a relationship with that which cannot be seen is a time-honored human practice that can greatly enhance ones life...

Peace, Blessings, Namasté, my friends ...

Thoughts on Control ...

Today is a beautiful day in Southern Florida. Glorious! The sun is shining and the skies are free of clouds.

I've been pondering the fact that I have no control over anyone else's thoughts, feelings, actions, or reactions ... ever. It is my reaction to what someone else says or does that is ultimately MY choice. I am responsible for and have control over only my thoughts, words, emotions, or deeds.

It's a simple concept to logically understand, but it is not a very easy one to stay aware of all day long ~ at least it isn't for me! It's very interesting how others can poignantly point out all the flaws in you, without even realizing that they share the same exact so-called flaws. It's as if they are looking in a mirror. That's not just a load of malarchy now, is it? We really DO see in others what we see in ourselves! And we like and dislike in others what we like and dislike in ourselves.

Today I think I'll try to stay aware of the fact that it is MY choice to react to the words and actions of people. It's my choice to percieve that someone has wronged me. It's my choice to allow chaotic or unnecessary emotions into my personal space. It's my choice to get caught up in drama that really isn't any of my business!

Today, instead of thinking, "He made me feel angry!" or "She made me feel sad" I will realize that absolutely no one can MAKE me feel anything. It is MY CHOICE to react to the words, actions, or thoughts of others. It is my choice, and mine alone, to feel a feeling or to allow someone's action or inaction to affect me personally. I have control over ONLY my own actions, reactions, emotions, and thoughts. Today I will try to stay aware of this fact. I will remain aware that I am ultimately 100% responsible for the way I choose to feel at any given moment!

Namasté, my friends ...

Entering a State of Forgiveness

How is it that some of us seem to be very willing to forgive and move forward in our lives, and others tend to stay stuck in their anger and pain for years on end? Why is forgiveness so important to our physical health and well being?

In order to maintain our conscious contact with God, the Divine, Creator, Great Spirit, Yahweh ~ forgiveness is essential. Some may think that the act of forgiving is exonerating the perpetrator or perpetrators who have wronged us. This is totally untrue. We need not excuse the perpetrators' behaviors to forgive completely.

Forgiveness is actually a selfish act. We forgive others' wrongdoings towards us to heal OURSELVES. We forgive so that we can finally let go of the pain and anger that eats away at our Souls bit by bit. We forgive so that we can move forward with an open mind and heart, free of the burdens of anger. We forgive so we can allow our Spirit the freedom to soar higher, and connect ultimately with the Divine. When we are wallowing in rage and/or pain, we are actually hurting no one but ourselves. We are keeping ourselves trapped in a viscious, chaotic vacuum of darkness and hopelessness.

This is not only detrimental to our physical well being, it also impedes our Spiritual development immensely. How can one's spirituality grow and thrive when one is stuck in the anger and pain of the past? It is virtually impossible to move forward on our spiritual paths without forgiving and letting go of the baggage that we continue to cling to.

When we forgive others, we choose to let go of the pain they have created in our lives. We cease allowing another's behaviors to have any power over our lives, and we empower ourselves in forgiving another's wrongdoings towards us. We choose to let go and to move forward on our personal journey. It is necessary to our spiritual growth to let go of the past. Holding on to pain and hatred and anger can result in physical maladies, such as high blood pressure, heart dis-ease, and many forms of cancer. Our minds and hearts remain in a state of anger and pain if we do not choose to forgive.

If I am having difficulty forgiving someone for their wrongdoings against me or against my loved ones, I ultimately remain stuck in the rage and pain. Therefore, there is no room for my own personal spiritual growth. A state of unforgiveness creates a state of chaos within one's soul which prevents grace from doing its work. To reiterate, forgiving another's wrongdoings does not mean that I am excusing his or her behavior. It simply means I am empowering myself to move forward on my personal path. Sometimes, a person thinks that it is impossible to forgive certain types of wrongdoings, such as sexual abuse, murder, or rape. I can personally attest to the fact that it is NOT impossible, and that forgiving the perpetrator is NOT - I repeat - NOT excusing the perpetrator's behavior. I forgive for my own serenity, my own peace of mind, and my own personal growth.

One merely needs to be WILLING to forgive to enter a state of forgiveness. To do this, as difficult as it may seem, I pray for the perpetrator daily for at least three weeks. (21 days) I pray that the wrongdoer find the peace, happiness, joy and love that I myself am seeking in my own life. After three weeks, I have never failed to notice that I no longer have a strong resentment toward the perpetrator. If still, after that period of time I find it difficult to let go and move forward, I continue to pray for that person for another 3 weeks. I am always amazed at how freeing this simple process is.

Give it a try! What have you got to lose?

Until next time, my friends,
Namasté.